Some of you may have noticed that things have been a little quiet around these parts of late. I’ve never felt that excuses make for particularly enthralling columns, but I’ve also long been a fan of disclosure. So – Julio and I broke up. It’s hard to be inspired to write about relationships when all…
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I always thought I’d be fine with aging. It seems like a lot of girls inherit their mothers’ attitudes about beauty/aging/whatever, and my mum has incredibly pragmatic views about all those things. In fact, I’m not even convinced she has any views as such. ‘Hey Mum, are you freaked out about turning 50?’ ‘What? No….
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My best friend is in love with an American. Not one of those convenient ones with an Australian working holiday visa or permanent residency; one of the difficult ones that threatens to take her far away from me. Miranda met Steve while he was living in Australia. Naturally, she met him just before he left…
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I was having a debate with some workmates a couple of months ago as to whether it’s okay to date people your friends have previously dated. I am firmly in the camp that, with some allowances made for individual circumstances, this shouldn’t be a problem. The biggest issue I would have with my friends wanting…
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I’m hardly an expert when it comes to ending relationships. It’s been a few years since I last did it and whenever I have, it’s been a pretty half-arsed effort anyway. But I’ve been around enough break-ups, both my own and others’, to know that it can be done well or it can be done…
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(500) Days of Summer has become something of a go-to for background noise for me. I often don’t like silence, and have long since had a habit of answering emails and editing articles whilst watching TV, which culminates in my wanting to have some kind of chatter as I work away on my laptop. (500)…
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As of yesterday, I have been “off the shelf” for 16 months. While I’ve never previously been in a relationship for this long, I have often found in the past that my skills (or whatever) with the opposite sex rather diminish while I am with-partner and I’ve been left feeling rather rusty when I’ve re-entered…
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There are a number of things I find troubling about the video clip for Katy Perry’s latest single, ‘Part of Me‘. One is that its “timely” release and blatant references to her relationship with Russell Brand (no matter what she says about having written the song years ago) lend weight to the suggestion that their…
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Many moons ago, I took pride in never having had sex with an ex-boyfriend. My badge of honour was in vain, however, as up until 2009, I’d never actually had much desire to do the horizontal dance of danger with someone I was no longer seeing. When you don’t want to do something, it’s not…
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As much as I love telling people what to do, I try to use this column to share funny and ridiculous anecdotes, and make observations about my love life and those of my friends, rather than as an instructional guide. But whether it’s because my writing this column means that people assume I have the…
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For a very brief period some time ago, I enjoyed buying self-help books from op shops. I can’t remember why I did this, as I tend to avoid self-help sections for the most part (though this might just be my idealised self-image; upon reflection, I also used to go to Borders with a friend and…
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Some days ago, I was reading an article about truth in feminism (linked from Rachel Hills’ wonderful blog), and whether Hugo Schwyzer should be writing from a feminist perspective given his colourful past. It was a great piece and addressed feminism and egalitarianism in relationships, but it was pretty much the most trite point in…
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Over the course of my dating history, I have told two people that I love them. The first, rather predictably, was my high school boyfriend, while the second is my current partner, Julio. My having loved two people, and particularly my having loved these two people is quite unsurprising when you consider that they comprise…
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Yep, it’s the week of Valentine’s Day, so I decided to get all celebratory and write two columns this week. But I still think it’s a pretty stupid occasion, even if I entirely support your decision to spend it as you will, and anecdotal experience tells me that this is a rather common sentiment. So…
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