The most painful whipping anyone in the BDSM community has ever handled is the defamation the lifestyle has suffered at the hands of EL James. The 50 Shades of Grey author has crafted a public relations nightmare for a community that does not necessarily have communications professionals to put forward its interests, particularly in…
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Sex often inspires differing opinions about what actually constitutes “It.” If a lady pal says she had sex with a younger guy from Batemans Bay, it’s often standard for it to be assumed that penetration was involved. I was in a way directly asked about definitions of sex by a friend who assumed I was…
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‘I’m super sexy but messed up. I like spanking and sex,’ Christian Grey said sexily. The above quote isn’t spoken dialogue in the film Fifty Shades of Grey. But it could be. Before I get into analysing this film I would like to point out how patronising and aggravating all the think pieces on Fifty…
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Hands up: who has ever been hunched over a hand mirror with their legs spread, panicking about something burning, itching, stinging or just feeling not quite right in their pants? Hello? Anyone? Sexually transmitted infections are stigmatised in Australia, creating a wealth of problems for both the individuals diagnosed with them and broader society. It’s…
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Readers, Lipsters, friends: the year of 2015 is well and truly upon us. As your New Year’s resolutions give way to the reality of work and play, I thought I’d impart on you some potential resolutions regarding your sex life. In a bit of a tongue-in-cheek start to another year of Back to Ba(sex), here’s…
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After a successful season premiere at Melbourne’s The Butterfly Club, hit cabaret show, The Misadventures of Miss Bouzy Rouge, is back for another rollicking good time from Thursday 8th, Friday 10th and Sunday 11th of January. Written and performed by Sarah Goussé, and accompanied by Daniele Buatti, this one woman show explores universal themes…
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It seems wherever we look in our increasingly media-consuming society, body shaming abounds. From songs that shame one bodily extreme to the other – ‘skinny’ or ‘fat’– and the eternal homage to anaconda-like penises (which, coincidentally, profess to not perform where a big booty is lacking), there’s an endless string of having to fit in…
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There, he said it: Sting admits he doesn’t last seven hours in bed. Since 1990, The Police singer has been captivating the imagination of sexual beings throughout the West with his revelation of taking wife Trudie Styler to pleasure town for an extended period with tantric sex. It’s not quite like that, Sting says…
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Have you ever had a sexual fantasy that you wanted to see portrayed on film? With all the adult entertainment out there, it can be difficult to find something that takes your fancy while still being female-friendly. Erika Lust, founder of XConfessions, sees a growing need for adult entertainment for people outside porn’s usual target…
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Consent culture and rape culture: from the Interweb to smart phones, these two foes so often war on the battleground of information communication technologies. Every battle won within the name of consent is a small victory. So when affirmative consent app, Good2Go, was pulled from the market just nine days after its release, it begged…
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If you are sexually active, one would hope you have heard of the infections that can set upon your bits if you have a lax attitude to safe sex. Perhaps they are not as embedded in your brain as one Geordie Shore cast member, whose sweet nothings during love making consisted of ‘chlamydiaaaaa!’ Beyond chlamydia,…
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Touch yourself. * ‘Men standing around in a room, praying for forgiveness from their deity for jacking off and not impregnating their wives with more sheep for the flock: this is the sight that confronted me during the Channel 4 documentary Sex Death and the Meaning of Life. As a sex positive person, it was…
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Ask a number of holidaymakers in any given airport departure lounge what they are after and you are bound to hear preferences for the following: sun, surf, sex. If media and academia are anything to go by, sex is a particular favourite. But why? There is constant research into the sexual behaviours of people going…
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Sex, sex, sex. As a sex positive person, I endeavour to learn about the who, what, when, where, why and how of many sexualities. Living as this sort of person in regional Australia, I have never expected my town to be a haven for alternative lifestyles and ideas. Hoped – yes; expected – no. So…
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