you could totally rock that
The other day, I was on a forum I’m a part of and reading a thread asking people what they can’t ‘rock’. The amount of responses was surprising and a little saddening. On the weekend, I was at brunch with my sister and, despite knowing my stance, she brought up that she thought certain people shouldn’t wear certain articles of clothing. Shouldn’t. Again, I was sad.
This sort of talk is thinly disguised (or not so thinly disguised) body hate. Directed at the self and directed at others.
People feed off it, discussing what they can’t ‘rock’ inevitably turns into a discussion about the parts of the body they hate, want to disguise, minimise, get rid of. And yet, if people talk about clothing/accessories they CAN ‘rock’, they are judged for having ‘tickets’ on themselves, for being vain or “gee, you really love yourself, don’t you?”
What, exactly, is wrong with loving yourself? What, exactly, is wrong with talking about what clothing you like to wear, what clothing makes you feel and look good? What is wrong with body confidence? Why do people feel the need to shoot down others’ self-confidence?
Insecurity? Jealousy? Their own beliefs in the arbitrary ‘rules’ of fashion? Society? All of the above?
We’re taught to be modest and self-deprecating, deflecting compliments as much as insults. We’re taught to be ladies, to show pride in our appearance, but are mocked for doing so and NOT doing so according to whatever is the standard of the day.
Can we ever ‘win’?
This is pessimistic of me, but I believe, no. Which is why I say, wear what you want, rock what you want, be confident, and love yourself. Someone, somewhere is loving you, someone, somewhere is judging you – so the only opinion that matters is your own.
