So… I’m a Mrs.

Yes, I’m 21 and recently married. It seems that more and more couples are holding out on their wedding vows these days, taking their time in these life steps and focusing on other parts of their life in the meantime. So I guess I can say that I am one of the few young people these days that can fully and confidently say that I am and plan on staying, happily married for many years to come.

In the past, a married woman could very well have been seen as doomed to a life of house confinement and the duties of cooking, cleaning and running around after her husband and children… but not so much any more. My husband is my equal. Although he drives me mad with his laziness, we share the house duties and I have no restrictions on my life goals. Quite the contrary, in fact. My husband supports and actively encourages the things that I want to do, both career wise and family wise and for this, I think I’ve found a treasure.

I quite excitedly look forward to the day when we’ll have children of our own – shaping their world and being a part of their lives, and I do not feel that as a woman, I need to strive beyond exhaustion to prove the worthiness of my existence, as many women before me have. I do not feel that bearing my husband’s children or the future possibility of me being a housewife will be an obligation rather then a want and I do not feel that my aisle plunge will leave me unsatisfied in my decision to become someone’s wife. I wish to challenge the ‘wife’ stereotype that is still so prominent in today’s society and fight for the right to be a happy wife, with rights and responsibilities in a partnership that is equal. And because of this, I am purely happy.

With hope that we’ll be one of those couples in the mall bickering over the items in our shopping basket, I excitedly approach each day that we have together as a new opportunity to explore the world with the knowledge that I’ve found my better half; my true soul mate and best friend; and in no way does that hold me back to what I want my life to be. It makes it better.