One response to “To work or not to work”

  1. Serenity

    Hey Rachel.
    Such an interesting topic.

    I’ve been working since I was about 14. At that age I dropped out of school to perform (which has been great – thankfully, I also recognised the need for education and later returned to complete it).
    At the same time was also already sexually active.

    My mother, a single mother of three and a relatively well-off author, was certainly able (finacially) to support me. She, however, had other ideas and gave me the same ultimatum she had given to my older brothers in years passed: ‘Go back to school, get a job or leave home’. She is extremely well-educated and had struggled very hard for many, many years to get where she was. She was simply not prepared to be the sole support of a drop-out who wanted to play grown-ups.
    When I protested she simply replied ‘You’re old enough to f**k, you’re old enough to feed yourself’ (as a symbol of adulthood rather than the actual act itself).

    I have been forever grateful for this as it instilled into me the idea that if I insisted on being treated as an adult, then I was going to have to act like one. If I was willing to go back to school, she would have been happy to support me entirely.
    It also taught me that yes, she did work for her money. It wasn’t just there. It helped me develop a respect for her as a woman in her own right rather than seeing her just as ‘my mum’.
    Working from my early teens helped me develop an independence that I cherish dearly. I developed an integrity and sense of self-worth that many of my peers had not yet even conceptualised.

    At the same time, I recognise that this path is not for every teen. I think that the boxes should always be removed so that the choices of the individual can be assessed according to the person, rather than a pigeon-hole created by society based solely on age…

    Again, Rachel, awesome topic for discussion!
    Thanks.
    Ren

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